6 Steps to Take You From Stuck to Unstoppable
The dictionary defines unstoppable as incapable of being stopped. Synonyms are listed as enthusiastic, bubbling, insuppressible, and rebellious.
I like to define UNSTOPPABLE as being in a state of continual flow or making unrelenting forward progress in your every day life. Unstoppable is being eager to get out of bed every morning and greet your day with enthusiasm. You proceed through your day with purpose and intentionality. You end your day feeling fulfilled and like you have lived to your fullest potential.
THAT is what it means to be unstoppable.
I know this because I have been in that icky, opposite place - stuck.
Stuck is where you can't quite connect the dots between your aspirations and your reality. Stuck looks different for everyone. It depends on what and how much you are resisting. It depends on where you fall on the fear and anxiety scale.
We get stuck in different places at different times in our lives. Some people get stuck in their careers, health, relationships, passions or purpose.
Perhaps you are feeling stuck because you are a new parent or because you are in a transition phase in life.
I have found the more I avoid being stuck, the more stuck I get. However, the more emphasis I put on feeling stuck the more stuck I get.
Even though I had been developing leaders in a corporate setting for 15 years, helping them align vision with goals, I have struggled with doing this for myself. At times I have been too overwhelmed by life’s daily tasks and it blocked me from gaining clarity around my direction. For years I was failing to meet the goals I set for myself. I had no problem setting and achieving family goals but when it came to putting me first, I struggled to connect with my purpose.
I grew to dread the start of the day. I didn’t love how I was spending my time, where I was placing my attention, or the feelings of discontent. I wasn’t totally unhappy but I wasn’t my happiest self either. I didn’t feel accomplished at anything important (to me).
As someone who was achievement oriented this baffled me. It took me a while to figure out what I was missing. There was a lot of research, reading, coaching, and self-discovery that led to me to my purpose. I had to build a new skill set that would allow me to balance my busy life with what I truly desired.
It wasn't a singular action that would result in immediate turnaround. What I was missing was twofold - structure and mindset. They took consistent effort to change both (and I still work on them).
Creating a structure provided repeatable steps that I could take whenever I was feeling disconnected. Learning how to shift my mindset motivated me through those moments when I felt disempowered.
The result was a life with greater passion, purpose, and potential. A life with more balance and flow.
The steps I took and continue to take my clients through are listed below. They aren’t here to overwhelm you but to give you a starting point. If a step resonates with you, stay there and answer the questions.
6 Steps to Take You From Stuck to Unstoppable
Step 1. Life Assessment: This is where you dig deep into your personal value system and identify what you want the most in life. This sets the stage for creating your vision.
- What are your core values?
- What are your strengths?
- What do you want more of in your life?
- What do you want less of in your life?
- What does life look like for you a year from now?
- What 10 things (big and small) have you accomplished?
- Where do you work?
- Who are your friends?
- What do you look like?
Step 3. Getting Real + Exploring Options: This step tends to get overlooked as we plow straight into making goals without considering our current state. Spending time working through your reality helps you navigate better by being upfront about the challenges you may face.
- How does your TODAY look compared to your vision?
- What are 3 challenges that stand between you and your vision?
- How can you overcome them?
Step 4. Becoming a Person of Action: Action creates movement, movement creates momentum, and momentum brings us closer to our dreams. Using your vision to guide your actions will keep you focused on where you want to go.
- List all the things you want to accomplish this year.
- Group them into focus areas. Anywhere from 1-3 focus areas are good.
- Cross off any goals that don't match your values and your vision.
- Make sure you have no more than 5-7 specific goals.
Step 5. Crushing Fear, Negative Thoughts, and Self-Doubt: Honestly, this is where the rubber meets the road. You can be crystal clear and have the smartest goals but if you have a specific mindset that is blocking your success you won't make it far. Fear is normal and healthy if you learn how to dance with it.
- Write down any negative thoughts you have.
- For each thought, write three ways you can disprove the thought.
- Reframe the thought into a positive affirmation.
Week 6. Maintaining Momentum: Have you ever spent the day cleaning and organizing the coat closet? You pull everything out. You painstakingly sort things out. You make a quick trip to Target to buy fancy bins. You get done and the closet looks pristine. A month goes by and the closet is a veritable hell hole again. You scratch your head and wonder what happened. You feel defeated and so you shut the door. Another month passes and it is unrecognizable. You sigh, shut the door, and utter that you are too busy. And so it goes for the next few months until you decide to take a crack at it again. Does this sound familiar?
SO, what did happen to the closet?
I will tell you. You put the organizational systems in place but you failed to put a system in place for maintaining the organization.
- How will you stay accountable?
- How will you review your goals (weekly or monthly)?
- What celebrations will you schedule?
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What part of this process resonated with you? What quick action can you take to help move you forward?